Don’t let other dictate your lifeEveryday Career Girl
1st let me clear the air by saying no I was not hit or anything. Second, abusive relation can mean a lot of things, 1st being hitting, and 2nd emotional/mental. I learned a lot from that relation both good and bad. Now, this happened years ago so not it’s not with my current boyfriend of 4 years. He knows what happened to me since we were friends back in the days.
Of course, I am not going to mention any names or get into the what happened, but I am going to tell you what I learned and how maybe you can get out of it if you or your friend are in an abusive relationship.
Talking to your friends and family
If you are scared to talk to your family that is fine, no person wants to tell their parents everything, but at times you need too. But if you don’t want too, for now, that is fine, but you have to let someone know like your best friend. I told my a few of my friends about it, and they all backed me up and was there for me through all the good and mainly the bad. They were the ones that pushed me to get a restraining order, and I did.
At times you have to trust your friends with serious things like this because you never know what could happen.
Not all abuse is physical
When I told my friend that I was in an abusive relationship. She thought I meant physical, but no it was mostly mental and emotional. He got into my head, and I suffered from depression which he knew so he used that against me and made it worse. I suffered from panic attacks and so on. It was hard because I dealt with it for almost 3 years.
Abuse mainly implies hitting, but when you really do your research, it implies a lot of, which I mentioned before emotional and mental. Will happens right away now, it will take time, and slowly you will start to see it once you do it might be too late, and it will be hard to get out.
I am good enough
During that relationship, I felt like I couldn’t be with no one else because of the trauma I went through. Although it was hard, I am lucky to have friends that were there for me telling me I deserve to be happy and loved the right way. 7 months later I found happiness, and now I’m being loved by my friends and family but mainly by my boyfriend who has been there for me since day 1 and still is. So if you think you are not good enough guess what honey? you are wrong because you also deserve to be happy, free and loved.
Became a stronger person
Back then I was maybe 21 or 22 now I am 27, so I was younger, naive, didn’t know better but thanks to that relationship, I came out a lot stronger. I now take no bullshit from no one. I feel like I can conquer the world. I was able to start my business, something that I never had a passion for, Iw as able to now have my own podcast show that I honestly love doing weekly.
You will find happiness
After that relationship, I was sure that all the guys were the same. I was traumatized to the max, and I didn’t trust anyone like anyone people. So slowly I started to get my life together, think about what I wanted for myself and what would make me happy. After a year later after everything happened, I started Everyday Career Girl, and I knew that someday I would be telling this story or at least what I have learned. I also knew that having my close friends by my side through it all was worth it since almost everything still in my life and I am pleased by that.
You see all you need is a perfect support system and if you don’t have one, you can also talk to us and share your story or seek a professional who can help you. I didn’t do that cause I have amazing people in my life. Studies show that this happens a lot and it’s important that we report it to whoever we can to save ourselves from the worse. I know I was, but I can’t say that for many females who go through it.